Tween girls range in age from 10 to 12 years old and are also referred to as a preadolescent, that “in-between”stage of development that is often mistakenly described as “too old for toys and too young for boys. I say mistakenly, because the range of characteristics, personalities, temperaments, and interests is very wide. Some of these girls feel like they are still eight-years-old and some look like they are sixteen! And if you are confused as a mom, just think how confused they feel.
When bedtime comes, all these confusions whirl around in their heads and these girls cannot fall asleep. How can a mom help her daughter settle in, so she will not be exhausted in the morning and have trouble getting up on time for school?
Two Important Going-to-Sleep Tips for Moms and their Tweens
1. Talk about worries hours before bed.
If this is an ongoing problem, have a quiet uninterrupted discussion about ways your tween would like you to help her. You may have to experiment for as long as even a week or two before you find the right formula, so do not start by focusing on the act of going to bed itself.
First you need to find out what the problem is. How can you solve a problem if you do not know what it is. Ask your daughter to explain what happens when it is bedtime.
She may describe not feeling tired when actually her body is exhausted but her mind is on alert. Discuss her worries before trying to figure out what to do.
Worries may include the pressure of school work, wanting to feel accepted by her friends, feeling over-scheduled and rushed, having no time for relaxation.