Seventeen-year-olds are rambunctious, active kids who thrive on lots of activity including a busy social life, lots of homework, learning to drive, speaking up to their parents sometimes with an unpleasant tone, and both excitement and worries about the future.
They’re always on the go and live on independence like it’s oxygen. Some seventeens seem to get more in control as the year rolls by and their moods settle down, but most flourish with a bit of drama, passion for their growing interests, and the capacity for strong friendships.
How to Enjoy Seventeen-Year-Olds Who Don’t Seem to Know Where the Boundaries Are
Making Rules About Driving
Once Seventeens get their drivers license they expect at first that they can go anywhere, any time, with any one which means using your car and your gas and forgetting that you need it, too, or most important, the idea of safety.
Some kids have their own cars and then they are even harder to convince that there are limits to its usage. Lectures, arguments, and punishments for breaking rules are definitely not the way to go when limiting a seventeen-year-old. You need to rely on your relationship.
Here are some tips:
1. In most states to get a license you need to take a course in drivers’ education, have lots of practice on the road, and take a written and road test. This means your teen has some learning under their belt, but not a lot of experience.
It’s best to have a collaborative discussion about what will help your teen feel safe in the car. Come up with guidelines together that make sense. They’ll appreciate that you care about their opinions and you’ll reduce their sometimes hidden apprehension about driving safely.
2. Have an honest discussion about how they feel about driving other kids around. How many kids do they feel comfortable having in the car at once? How do they feel about being the non-drinker driving other drunken kids around? Discuss how to say, “no,” to their peers when they’re afraid or uncomfortable.
Seventeens appreciate that you know this kind of responsibility is stressful and they need your help in learning about managing their peers. If both parents and teens are honest with each other, guidelines rather than rules are decided upon together that make sense.