How many times in a week do you threaten time-out or taking a cell phone away only to regret it and not carry through? You tell yourself it was an over-reaction, a pointless reaction, an overused reaction but that doesn’t get to the heart of the matter and you know it.
You feel so uneasy, on edge, off the mark. You’ve been down this road before and here it is again. The same emotions as usual: frustration, helplessness, futility, hopelessness. The behaviors of the child or teen you are reacting to may be different, but they all feel the same—my youngster doesn’t listen, doesn’t respect me, after all I do for her, she doesn’t appreciate me.
Under appreciated parents are typically ones who do too much for their kids all the time, a common problem today. Even working parents find and schedule multiple activities, help a great deal with homework, follow-up with teachers, make all the meals, clean kids’ rooms, listen to complaints and demands, and never get enough sleep.
But isn’t this what parents are supposed to do? Actually—no, not all the time! When children are spoon-fed their assignments, have their lives and rooms organized for them, never arrange their own transportation, don’t learn how to cook and clean, they become far too dependent.