I had heard the saying “Fake it until you make it” most of my life. But I never really understand the meaning until I had my son. From the very moment they laid him in my arms, and I had that little panic of “What do I do now?” I realize that you fake it until you make it. You follow your gut, your instincts, and the reasonable advice of others when it’s warranted.
But this last week, as my son is approaching 4, holy moly the attitude. It’s like a teenager has come in and possessed the body of my almost 4 year old. He’s decided when he will or will not sleep. For some reason he’s waking up during the night, and 4:30 a.m. or 5:00 a.m. has seemed (to him) to be a reasonable wake up time.
And I’ve been tempted more than once to take Lil Man out of the house without his shoes on because he refuses to stop doing whatever he’s doing to put them on after my numerous attempts telling him to put his shoes on.
This has never been an issue for us. Well at least not to this extreme. It’s blatant defiance, and wow has it been hard to deal with. What seemed to work in the past doesn’t seem to be working now.
And today, in the middle of the battle of wills, I was reminded to “Fake it until you make it.” And that’s exactly what I did. I think they (children with strong wills) can sense when they think they have the upper hand in the situation. So I shifted the momentum as if I had a clue how to truly handle his open defiance. And it worked!
It’s putting a smile on when you don’t feel like smiling. It’s laughing when you feel down. It’s telling yourself that you will get through this phase even when you feel that it might last forever. It’s faking it until you make it.