Life gets much busier once you have two children. Days fly by in a whirlwind of feedings, naps, and diapers. There are dirty dishes, laundry and vacuuming to be done.
The first child can get lost in the chaos because they are more self sufficient. They might not get attention from mommy because the load of poop stained onesies need washed.
But it is important to give that first child plenty of one-on-one attention. I try my best to ignore other responsibilities and spend one-on-one time with big brother while little brother was sleeping. We had a lot of quality time playing games, coloring, doing puzzles, and just playing while the baby slept.
Your first child has a huge role in their baby sibling’s life. They are role models, care takers, play mates, and teachers.
You, of course, don’t want to force your child into a role of taking care of their sibling unwillingly, but you should encourage them to be a helper. They can grab diapers for you, they can bring snacks for everyone to share, and they can play peek-a-boo with the baby while you make them lunch.
You are the parent, but the sibling deserves responsibility in caring for their new baby too. My son loved this role and it made him feel that he was still a very important part of the family. He takes his job as big brother seriously, and he is wonderful at it!
The transition will never be perfectly smooth. There will always be mommy guilt and sibling rivalry. But having two children opens up the doors for new relationships and growth for every person in the family, and it can be an incredible experience!